I warned her. That’s all I can say. Months ago, Bast (at my never-ending encouragement – ok, some might call it harassing) picked up the very same little silver bullet that rocked my world. And when my little bullet bit the dust (overuse, you say? Bah! no such thing) I warned her the same thing would happen… Continue reading Victim of the vaginal wars
For the first time in quite a while, I ran across something of interest at Salon. It’s tough, I know, to come up with something fascinating every single day about sex. Some days there’s just nothing new to say. But I digress. This article is about lube. The fun of lube, the importance of lube. It recommends… Continue reading 3 lubes for fun from behind
Contraception. Maybe it’s because it’s such an awful, long, ugly word. Or maybe it’s because it can bring the whole gamut of human reality into play – life, death, sickness, health. Whatever the reason, people hate to think about contraception. They hate to deal with it. They hate discussing it. And all this hate and… Continue reading Bareback is best
Most of the people who know me in life assume that if I were to get “into” (their emphasis, not mine) BDSM that I would be a dominant. It’s a reasonable enough thesis – I tend to be fairly (ahem) assertive in my day-to-day life. I’ve been at least an equal if not the stronger… Continue reading Where are the submissive women?
First, at long last, a quickie on my trip with Bast to the peeler bar last weekend. It was her first time ever. I think she was a little disappointed by the action, overall. Most of the girls, while relatively pretty, just sort of swayed back and forth, walked around, took off some clothes. Pretty… Continue reading The clock
A great feature at Nerve.com caught my eye this morning, called Gimme Shelter. It’s one man’s personal essay about cunnilingus – why he loves it. Thought-provoking and hugely fascinating read. Here it is: As a bipolar manic depressive, I carry around a weird mixture of hubristic entitlement and wretched guilt. It’s as if I own the… Continue reading Doing cunnilingus the right way
While it’s quite de rigeur for women to have at least one sex toy – and some of us have several – it has been my experience that guys, on the whole, don’t have any interest in trying out the myriad of sex toys available for men. I surveyed several of the men I know, and the… Continue reading Toys for boys
Went to see a show yesterday called The Vagina Monologues. Interesting, hilarious, fun, moving. I worked up a small review you might want to check out. If you haven’t seen the show, but would like to, or just want to learn more, check out their web site. Also ran across an article called When Will They Start Making Pornos… Continue reading Mind fucks and strap ons
I’ve got my nose deep in at least three of the books I picked up last week (no, silly, not all at once…). But one in particular tends to stay with me even when I’m not reading it, so I thought I’d share some of my thoughts so far. Consensual Sadomasochism by Bill Henkin has… Continue reading What is orgasm denial?
Bast and I hit the city’s sex shops today with a vengeance, and saw SO many things we’d like to get. I tried diligently to take it easy on my debit card. I had moderate success with this. It’s just that there’s so much fun stuff out there! It’s hard to keep my hands and… Continue reading Can you become a sex shop shopaholic?
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