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Don’t Listen to Those Who Say “No Sex on the First Date”

No sex on the first date is a trope that’s been around forever. It’s pretty close to saying that you’re saving yourself for marriage. It’s outdated and there’s really no place for it in modern society. It used to make sense, though. Women were pressured into getting married and were taught not to give the… Continue reading Don’t Listen to Those Who Say “No Sex on the First Date”

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How To Have Anal Sex For The First Time

Bacchus from erosblog.com was talking about anal first-time and it got me to thinking about my own sort-of first time, only time, really. This entry could be subtitled “Why you should not have hot completely drunk monkey sex with a bad back”. About that bad back. Most of the time it’s OK. But I’m careful. I know… Continue reading How To Have Anal Sex For The First Time

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The colors of your sex life

If sex was a colour, what colour would it be? There have been times in my life when it was white. White for love, white for purity, that wonderful music-swelling-in-the-background, proper camera lighting, young-lovers-well-met, joyous, this-is-the-love-of-my-life kind of sex. Just like in the movies. Don’t let anyone tell you it doesn’t happen. It can. I… Continue reading The colors of your sex life

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BDSM items for your house

Reading a new article on sexy furniture on Cleansheets.com got me to thinking about all those toys you can’t bring home in a shopping bag. Is there really a market out there for furniture specifically designed for sex? Time for me to hit the research trail and find out… Here’s what I learned: Yes, Virginia, there is a furniture… Continue reading BDSM items for your house

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Why BBW are great women

have to say yet again how much I love the recently-launched Good Vibes magazine. Really, of all the online sex e-zines, this is my favourite, bar none. It’s intelligent without being too in love with its own literary qualities (the way I sometimes feel about Nerve) but fun, and covers many of the same topics, with the… Continue reading Why BBW are great women

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Can you suck yourself?

I mentioned a while back that about 3% of men (according to an article on The Position‘s web site) can suck their own cock, but I’d never seen it, except in one photo that I swear was manipulated digitally to make it appear so. Browsing through some of the offerings at Jane’s Guide this morning, I ran across… Continue reading Can you suck yourself?

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Why orgasm denial can be good

For days now, I’ve been thinking about the concept of denial. Sometimes we deny ourselves things, deliberately or by chance. Sometimes other people deny us things, deliberately or by chance. And sometimes it’s chance itself that denies us. It’s been a big denial week for me.1. I’ve been (deliberately) denying myself my bullets, masturbating only… Continue reading Why orgasm denial can be good

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3 lubes for fun from behind

For the first time in quite a while, I ran across something of interest at Salon. It’s tough, I know, to come up with something fascinating every single day about sex. Some days there’s just nothing new to say. But I digress. This article is about lube. The fun of lube, the importance of lube. It recommends… Continue reading 3 lubes for fun from behind