If I ever wondered before if I could be a Dom (as most of my experiences up until now have been submissive) the past two weeks would have cured me of such silly thoughts. For two weeks now, I’ve been Mom to a four-month puppy who is adorable but headstrong. I’ve come to learn that… Continue reading How can a woman become a Dom?
When I was a wee thing in my adolescent sexual prime, a favourite bed-time activity for my boyfriend and I was to jerk each other off. Flipping through the dozens of sex manuals I’ve accumulated over the years, I noticed that most go on at length about the benefits of getting in touch with yourself,… Continue reading How to give a good handjob
Carol Queen shares some thoughts about being sex positive in this month’s issue of Good Vibes magazine. She says – if I may quote her: If sex-positivity is Utopian–and in a way, it is–we have to be willing to envision the world we want, wherever we are, and start figuring out how to create it: who our… Continue reading How to become sex positive
For days now, I’ve been thinking about the concept of denial. Sometimes we deny ourselves things, deliberately or by chance. Sometimes other people deny us things, deliberately or by chance. And sometimes it’s chance itself that denies us. It’s been a big denial week for me.1. I’ve been (deliberately) denying myself my bullets, masturbating only… Continue reading Why orgasm denial can be good
There has always been something sexy about a man in uniform. For my generation, that thigh-clenching response was firmly embedded in our sexual subconsicous from the moment Richard Gere strode up to Debra Winger dressed in full navy dress, swung her up in his arms and carried her away. The way his strong shoulders looked… Continue reading Men in uniform
I’m starting to like The Position more and more. They’ve got some good stuff there. And in my never-ending quest for literate and intelligent sex writing on the web, that’s a Good Thing. Case in point: this month’s Dick-tionary. Reminds me an awful lot of The Book of the Penis by Maggie Paley that I’ve been reading recently. Fun facts… Continue reading Important penis facts
A great feature at Nerve.com caught my eye this morning, called Gimme Shelter. It’s one man’s personal essay about cunnilingus – why he loves it. Thought-provoking and hugely fascinating read. Here it is: As a bipolar manic depressive, I carry around a weird mixture of hubristic entitlement and wretched guilt. It’s as if I own the… Continue reading Doing cunnilingus the right way
While it’s quite de rigeur for women to have at least one sex toy – and some of us have several – it has been my experience that guys, on the whole, don’t have any interest in trying out the myriad of sex toys available for men. I surveyed several of the men I know, and the… Continue reading Toys for boys
Went to see a show yesterday called The Vagina Monologues. Interesting, hilarious, fun, moving. I worked up a small review you might want to check out. If you haven’t seen the show, but would like to, or just want to learn more, check out their web site. Also ran across an article called When Will They Start Making Pornos… Continue reading Mind fucks and strap ons
Well, it took me an extra day longer than I’d expected, but I did manage to hit the sex shops today. Had a blast doing it, too, though I was disappointed by my search for hot leather clothing. It seems that women who wear sizes larger than size 6 are not sufficiently skinny enough to… Continue reading My latest sex items
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